The Best Tinder Alternative - A Beginner's Bumble Guide

Kinda done with Tinder?

But at the same time, you like being able to swipe left and swipe right to get a match?

In this article, I will reveal what is the best Tinder alternative on the market.

How to get matches on Bumble


That's just my opinion on what's the best Tinder alternative, as a text game expert with almost 10 years of experience.

So maybe you prefer OkCupid, Hinge, or even the underdog CoffeeMeetsBagel.

Well hang tight, because today we're going to talk about Bumble.

We're going to go over a few juicy topics:

I added links above so you can directly jump to the part that's most exciting to you.

Let's dive in and find out why Bumble is the best Tinder alternative.

Is Bumble the Best Dating App?

Bumble quietly became my new favorite dating app for the following reasons:

  • Women have to message you first (and this is huge, more on that below).

  • The interface is simple but at the same time way deeper than Tinder's.

  • It literally is the most popular dating app as of Summer 2022.

To be honest, you could take all those things separately and they would still justify Bumble as an app that's superior to Tinder.

Tinder Is Going Downhill

Don't get me wrong, I love Tinder.

I met countless great women from there, and when it works, it works.

But as of now, there are other online dating apps that may be a better Tinder alternative.

It's very simple: Bumble does what Tinder do, but does it better.

At least from the perspective of a man looking for a date, more on that below.

Tinder Is for Women, not for Men

It all started when I got banned from Tinder for telling a girl that if she doesn't like my jokes, maybe we're not a good match.

Yes, that's all it takes to get banned from Tinder those days.

You rub 3 girls the wrong way, they report you, and your account is gone.

By the way, if you got banned too, check out my article on how to get unbanned from Tinder.

Clearly it's a good thing that there is a proper Tinder alternative, maybe competition will wake them up.

Either way, I was about to download Tinder again, when I saw this on the app store:

Tinder sucks

2.7/5 rating, that's incredibly low for an app that popular.

So I get it, most other dating apps are far from 5 stars.

But Tinder is one of the lowest-rated "mainstream" dating apps.

And when you're supposed to be the number one dating app, if half of your users hate you, there's a problem.

If you want to know all that's gone wrong with Tinder you can read the reviews section on the app store.

But basically, it boils down to this:

  • It's filled with bots and scams.

  • It's filled with women who don't want to meet.

  • It's expensive and buggy.

Just a reminder that we needed a Tinder alternative.

The State of Tinder in 2022

In my opinion, Tinder is purely focused on marketing now.

They want to get men who pay on the app.

And the best way to do that is to make it as easy as possible for women to get on board.

Because more women will attract more men.

You know it, that's just like how nightclubs work.

But I see 2 major issues here:

  1. At most, you get on average 1 girl for every 4 guys on Tinder.

  2. The easier it is to create an account, the more you attract people who don't really care to get a date.

Needless to say, if you go to a club and you want to pick up girls, as soon as you see it's a 1/4 ratio sausage fest, you leave.

And in itself that would be alright because competition is not necessarily a bad thing.

Except that there is another major issue:

Most women on Tinder do not even look for a date.

And when you're really a busy guy, you don't have time to talk to uninterested women.

Or to go on pointless dates.

Bumble Is Just a Better Tinder

I was hesitant in switching to Bumble for years.

Tinder is still good to get dates easily.

And then I tried, and got seduced by that Tinder alternative.

Bumble is the way.

For a few years now, Bumble has been the second most downloaded dating app in the world.

And over the last year, Bumble became the app with the biggest share of paid users.

So in my opinion, it's not just a Tinder alternative, it's literally the better option.

You can still use both Tinder and Bumble together for more matches overall anyways.

But Bumble just solves Tinder's 2 biggest issues.

  1. In terms of the female-to-male ratio, Bumble does better.

  2. In terms of catering to people who really want a date, Bumble does better too.

And that second point is really the main reason why I'm writing this article.

So let's dive deep into it.

Focus on Women Who Actually Need Dates

Recently, I've been on a streak of bad dates.

Not because the dates were boring.

But simply because those girls were not really interested in me, or a date at all for that matter.

Here are some of the funny things I heard on some of my recent first dates:

"I don't really 'like' someone on the first date because my ex really hurt me in the past."

"I'm looking to see how things go, we can be friends at first."

"I'm looking for a relationship, it's just that I don't really have time for that now."

"I'm on my way to have a drink with you, but I can't stay late, I have to see my friends in 1 hour."

"Hey, actually I also invited my friend to come to join us, she'll be here in 15 minutes."


Pro Tip: If you ever find yourself in such a situation during one of your first dates, it's time for you to walk away. If she was actually interested, she wouldn't say that.

So sure, I could keep chasing those girls.

And maybe, one day when they wake up and feel lonely, they might give me a chance.

Or, I could focus on meeting new women who actually want a date and who actually like me.

(We're going for the second option here, that's kind of the whole thing with my brand.)

Jokes aside, it is what it is.

That's marketing 101: you don't try to sell a pen to someone who doesn't need a pen.

Some girls go on dates just because they are bored or lonely.

And if what you want is a real date, you gotta filter those girls out as much as possible.

Bumble Screens Uninterested Women

So I thought to myself: