Your Tinder profile is on point, your photos are fire, but the bio...
You've hit a blank.
You don't want to brag, but you also need to demonstrate high value to stand out.
Because you don't want to end up with a poopy bio like this one:
In this article, I'm going to show you the worst Tinder bio mistakes to avoid.
And I promise you, this will be the most in-depth "Top 7 whatever" you've ever read.
With real examples of the worst Tinder bio mistakes (and high-value fixes).
With the whole reasoning behind what makes a good Tinder bio.
With immediately actionable advice to fix your Tinder bio now.
But why should you care about your Tinder bio?
It's not like a great bio will get you more matches by itself...
But if you look at this:
You immediately know this guy doesn't really get a lot of girls.
It's tryhard
It's hard to read
It's not interesting
You've gotta understand a few things to come up with a good Tinder bio.
So let's make sure you're avoiding the worst Tinder bio mistakes.
What Does A Good Tinder Bio Do?
Increases your match's excitement (and makes getting a date easier).
Further attracts girls who are on the fence about you.
Helps girls to send you the first text THEMSELVES.
So to reap all those benefits, I'm going to show you exactly the worst Tinder bio mistakes you want to avoid.
Let's get into it.
1 - Your Bio Is Too Detailed
This is a common mistake and one I did for a long time.
Because when you're about to write your bio, what do you have in mind?
You want to sell yourself.
You want to introduce yourself.
You want to make a good impression.
And it's easy to get lost in details.
But a bio like that is not really effective.
You don't want your bio to go into unnecessary details, and you don't want to write a novel either.
One of the worst Tinder bio mistakes would be to share your life story before she even has the chance to say hi.
Just like when you meet someone in real life, you don't go into deep details at first.
Your bio should be an introduction to you, not the whole story of you.
Here's what happens if your bio is too detailed:
It shows you don't really understand how to meet people.
You kill all mystery before even saying hi.
You're too "in your face".
You want your bio to give just enough to get her curious about you.
So that she then wants to talk with you to satisfy that curiosity.
Keep it short and sweet.
What To Do If Your Bio Is Too Detailed
To avoid such Tinder bio mistakes you want to trim that down so it looks nice and neat.
Keep it to 3 paragraphs maximum.
8 to 10 sentences tops for the copywriters among us.
The easiest way to do that is to come up with an extensive list of 15 things about you.
Among that list, you will select the top 3 and roll with it.
The rest, it's your job to get her to discover it during your date together.
Remember, your bio is simply an introduction.
If you want to know in detail how to write a good Tinder bio, have a look at my Extremely Detailed Tinder Guide 2022 Edition.
2 - You're Bragging Instead Of Showing
Your bio should tell her why she should be interested in you.
But bragging is really one of the worst Tinder bio mistakes.
Here's an example:
There is some humor in this, and that's good.
But it's still basically a bullet point list of "why I am so awesome".
Show Instead Of Telling
One of the worst Tinder bio mistakes is to make your bio a list of your life achievements.
Instead of telling what makes you awesome, you want to show what makes you awesome.
And if you think that you can't show something through words, think again.
There is always a subtext in what you write or say.
Pro Tip: It's not about what you say, it's about how you say it. If your intention is to impress or convince girls that you're cool, it will always come off as tryhard. |
For example, I could that say that:
I make enough money with my business to travel the world.
I'm courageous enough to live abroad by myself for years.
I'm cool enough to make friends with people wherever I go.
I am very active and I like to take risks.
But then it would really sound like I'm bragging...
Because it is bragging.
It's simply listing my achievements and bluntly telling women why I am an attractive guy.
Use Storytelling To Captivate Women
Being that blunt would be really unattractive.
Because the harder you try to show someone how cool you are, the more they will assume you're insecure.
Bragging easily is one of the worst Tinder bio mistakes.
Instead, here's what I wrote in my bio:
"I will tell you my scary travel stories."
Add this to the fact my bio says I'm French, and here's how I can show all the good things I mentioned above without actually saying any of it.
If I'm French living somewhere else than France, it means I can make enough money to travel and I'm brave enough to enjoy the solo traveler life.
If I have scary travel stories, it means my life is adventurous/interesting and I'm independent enough to maintain this lifestyle.
It's better to imply that you have attractive qualities and a dope life instead of bluntly stating it.
An added benefit is that it can make girls even more curious to know about you.
And now you're flipping the script since they are the ones asking to know about your life and they give you the opportunity to say why you're such an amazing guy.
How To Show Instead of Telling
While showing and bragging is one of the worst Tinder bio mistakes...
I get that it's hard to not tell stuff when using words.
Your best tool here is going to be storytelling.
For example, in my bio, instead of telling girls that I am a world traveler, I tell them that I have scary travel stories.
Instead of telling girls that I'm financially independent, I say that I'm an entrepreneur working for my own business.
Another example, remember the screenshot above with the pilot guy?
Instead of telling girls that he's a pilot, he could say that he flies planes from Paris to New York for a living.
It's essentially the same thing, but conveyed through a "mini-story" it becomes less tryhard because the main message is the story (not that he's interesting).
It "just so happens" that you're amazing because the story mentions cool things about you.
And that's way more effective than coldly stating attractive facts about yourself.
Pro Tip: Remember that women are emotional creatures. In a men's world it makes sense to go up to people and give them a list of your assets. Not when interacting with women, because they react better to emotions. |
Here's how you come up with interesting stories for your Tinder bio:
Write down a list of 10 things you're proud of.
Select a few.
And once you've got that, think of a funny story that happened to you that mentions those amazing things you're proud of.
Think about what the stories in his Tinder bio subtly communicate.
He just landed in one of the most expensive cities on the planet:
He's wealthy and successful.
His chest makes for great pillows:
He's fit and caring.
And that is way more effective than bluntly listing cold facts.
That's how you avoid one of the worst Tinder bio mistakes:
Let girls discover by themselves what's so cool about you instead of directly telling them.
3 - Your Bio Is Boring
Let's go back to something more relatable.
You're a regular guy living in your own home country.
But that's not an excuse for you to run a boring bio filled with mundane things that everyone does.
The above example is not good because nothing in that bio stands out.
Everyone likes to do all of the things that this guy said he likes to do and that's not good.
Being boring is another of the worst Tinder bio mistakes because it makes you forgettable.
Be The Protagonist, Not An NPC
Here's what you want to avoid from the point of view of a woman:
This is extremely boring.
She could have the exact same conversation with literally any guy.
If she can interchange you with any other guy, she won't care about you.
A good bio reels women into your world, it leaves a mark.
One of the worst Tinder bio mistakes is to stay unremarkable.
You must be specific about what you like and take risks, don't be afraid to be polarizing.
It will help you filter women who aren't for you.
It will make you more memorable.
Here's another example of a bad bio:
It's not really bad, he's still telling a bit about what he does, and that can be a bit exciting to some women.
But absolutely nothing here tells me what's special or different about him.
He has a job.
He thinks he's better than her ex.
... But the problem is that most guys do that too.
And presenting yourself the same way as most other men do is one of the worst Tinder bio mistakes.
This guy does what you expect him to do before you move on and forget about him forever.
This guy is a non-playable character.
He is virtually invisible to women.
Show What Makes You Unique
Even if you list specific things in your bio, you've got to be careful.
If your bio looks something like this:
"I like to travel, exercise, play with my dog, and go hiking. Huge fan of The Office lol that's what she said
- Decent cook
- Dom 😈
- Fitness Junkie<